When a person is fresh out of recovery, their sobriety may not be guaranteed. While they may intend to stay sober, the reality is that the transition back into normal life is difficult and can be jarring, even if they have a sober living plan.
There is a structure to their day, and they know exactly what’s expected of them. The same is not true when they go back to living normally. How can you support a family member or loved one who is in the early stages of recovery? There are three ways. These include:
- Being an active listener
- Prioritizing your relationship
- Avoiding making assumptions
Fortunately, treatment facilities like Victory Bay Recovery Center can offer individuals the added structure and support needed once they leave their program.
Active Listening Means the World to Newly Sober Individuals
To start with, think about becoming an active listener. An active listener is thinking only about what the other person is saying. They hear what they’re saying without interjecting their own opinions or feelings.
Of course, you may have opinions about what has happened because of your loved one’s addiction, but it’s important to give them the space needed to speak without judgment.
If you feel that you want to discuss how you were impacted, then think about going to family therapy with your loved one so that a mediator or counselor can be there to facilitate that discussion positively.
Put This Relationship First
Sometimes, it may feel easier to set aside your relationship and tell the other person to come around only when they’re sober or in a better place. The reality is that the other person is likely having to deal with living in a completely new way. They may have much of their time taken up by medical appointments, therapy, or 12-step programs.
To help them, make sure you take an active role in their life, even if it just means asking them to get coffee or encouraging them to join you for an activity you both enjoy. Even if they don’t have time to meet with you, knowing that someone wants them to be there can be a major boost that they need during recovery.
Avoid Making Assumptions
Finally, one of the best things you can do for someone coming out of a rehabilitation program is to make sure you’re not assuming anything about them. Don’t assume that they can go to a party with you if drugs or alcohol may be present. Don’t assume that they were out drinking or doing drugs if they miss a meeting with you or come home late.
By making assumptions, you could damage your relationship and communication lines that you want to remain open. Rather than making assumptions, be straightforward. Ask them what they were doing. Ask if they need help or if they want to talk. If you’re going somewhere, a trigger may be present. Ask if they really want to go or if you should change your plans.
Getting to a place of sobriety is tough for some people, but knowing that other people are on their side is helpful. These three tips are designed to help you show that you’re there for your loved ones and are willing to support them through their recovery, especially when they need balance in their life the most.
Contact Victory Bay Recovery to Learn More About Helping Your Loved One
At Victory Bay Recovery, we know that the early stages of sobriety are delicate, but sober living is essential. We are here to help those who want to support their loved ones through these early days of sobriety. We can support you with family therapy, life skills training support, and much more. Call today at 855.259.1624.